Monday, November 18

and yes, bittersweet is running rampant in these parts

I give up. Suggestions? Doggy Prozac ? The sadness it just won't leave her.

It was actually a great day.

I realize the photo above might discount my statement, but I assure you, much joy was had.

We got up at 5:20 am -- that alone starts the day off right. I had a full two hours to sit, read, scribble, meditate. Heaven. Daisy went off on her adventure-- but truth be told she wasn't too excited to go, so I'm not sure how that's all working out.

On the one hand, I can see the difference as she is much more playful and social with dogs now when we are out and about. On the other hand-- she loves getting in the car and going on trips-- but she is not keen to go on her outings, so.

*sigh*

What's a dog mama to do with a grief-stricken pup?  Well, seeing as I am a blogging dog mama, naturally I put it out to the internets -- the all wise and knowing internets -- and got a pretty solid response:

1. get another puppy
2. get her on some holistic relief --- rescue remedy or something
3. give her time

Hmmm. So I ordered up a DAP collar.  Reviews are good and it seems pretty mild.  Plus, what she is exhibiting seems to fall into the anxiety/depression zone . ..  so I am hoping this gives her some relief.

And, I have submitted some applications into local animal shelters.  Getting a puppy is a pretty magical thing-- there's no way of knowing exactly what dog it's going to be until you meet that dog.  And, there's no way of knowing how long it will take to have that right match.

Me, I am not in any hurry.  Puppies are a lot of work and Daisy and I have a pretty sweet routine . . . but, I am also open to change and new things . . . so we will let the universe roll out its plan and we will respond accordingly.

For some reason, I am super tired in this moment.  I was going to go to yoga tonight but blew it off.

The weather today was simply not to be believed. 

Pink makes me happy. Always.image

Spectacular.  I was practically barefoot -- sneakers (no socks, obvs), jeans and a t-shirt.

I think that about sums up my day:  sunny, beautiful with a side of sad dog.

Life.  It's always something, n'est-ce pas?

bisous, e

20 comments:

  1. HI there! Just thought I'd pop in a wee comment about your nervous pup. Poor thing. My coworker got her dog a Thundershirt - it's like a coat that helps with anxiety. I don't know the hows or wherefores, but she said her dog is responding well to it. It sounds like a swaddle for a dog! I googled it & the website is thundershirt.com if you want to check it out. Good luck with the collar. I hope it works!

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    1. oh so cool-- I love how there are so many options for care and nurturance-- thank you for sharing-- I will definitely check it out! xox, e

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  2. Daisy's look just tugs at my heart strings. Sweet girl. Have you talked to a holistic vet regarding her malaise? Getting a new puppy is a big step and sounds like you are considering it with thoughtfulness. There's no easy answers for a grief stricken pup but Daisy's fortunate you are so concerned and compassionate about her loss. Don't you wish you could wave a magic wand and make it all better? Hope the collar works.

    Hugs to Daisy, and you too.

    Bridgemor

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    1. HI Bridgemor,

      I did get your message....fellow Minnesotan....I am winding down my semester right now, maybe after the holidays we can meet?

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    2. YES!! where is my f*cking magic wand!!?? ha ha-- it is really a lesson for me (Ms. Fixer that I am, ahem) to simply allow her to be and do all I can to support and nurture . . but oh god, it ain't easy to see her without joy . . . xo

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    3. and OMG -- how much do I love that Megsie and Bridgemor might MEET !!!! love love love connections in MN .. .fabuloso!!

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  3. Poor Daisy. She does look so sad. I like the advice you have collected. All three things seem like good things to consider. And, here is what I heard from someone, I have no idea who. Puppies are a crapshoot. You never really know the dog you are going to get. I think this is true based on our current bundle of fur. But older dogs you get what you see. So. I thought I should share that in case it helps with any decision making. I still LOVVVVEEE me some puppy...SQUEEE! But, sometimes it is good to have a new perspective.

    Kisses to that sweet, sweet snout. And big love to you as well.

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    1. yes, your point is a good one-- I am staying open, but ohhhhh I do love me some puppy belly . .. xoxo, e

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  4. You've gotten good advice all around I think. Megsie's comment in particular. :) It's always bittersweet with pets, but mostly the sweet outweighs the bittersweet, thank goodness. XOXO my friend! Hope the weather stays with you!

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    1. well, the bitter definitely pumps up the sweetness-- so the circle rolls--- doesn't matter what direction--- it's all a flow and we just gotta ride with it . . .xoxo

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  5. Can you get Pet Remedy (http://www.petremedy.co.uk/) over there? It's a herbal version of the DAP concept and it works wonders on an anxious dog. Not sure about sadness, but you never know. They do list 'loss of companion'. if you like, I can get some and mail it to you.

    Also, I'm willing to be proved wrong on this, but my money says you'll fall head over heels with some non-puppy dog with wonky ears and a questionable past and so will Daisy : ). Of course, I may be projecting : ) xx

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    1. thank you Jo! I will check into it-- I think I can, if not I will write to you--- and Hmmm<---!!!! what is this lovely vision of LOVE you are holding for me? oh yes, please!

      xoxo, e

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  6. Oh poor Daisy, she sounds so lost without her old companion ... We, or rather, my parents, did the get-a-new-puppy thing when one of their dogs died. The remaining dog became just like a shadow, really, not his former self at all. He used to stand still just listening and looking, staring into space, waiting and waiting for his old friend to come back and play with him. Which was never going to happen, of course.

    A few months later when my folks got a new puppy, the existing dog suddenly got a new lease of life and seemed to love his new role of now being the older, wiser dog whereas before he'd been the daft wee youngster himself. It worked - he perked up no end and lived happily ever after. Until he died of natural causes himself.

    But I guess unless you try the new dog option, you won't know. It would be interesting to know the probability of whether a new dog generally boosts a bereaved dog's spirits ... You, stats, odds? Does it ever NOT work, I wonder?

    I guess one potential drawback of option 3) for Daisy, time, may be that she gets into a habit of feeling miserable and sad, and whilst in time she may actually forget the reason WHY she's sad, she's got herself into a habit that she can't get out of. If that makes sense?

    However things pan out, she is incredibly lucky to have you taking such good care of her that's for sure! :-D

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  7. yeah--- you understand the full thing--- part of it has to be that the apartment, car and dog beds still smell like Henry, I imagine .. . but I have some different things planned for her for the next couple of weeks-- *fingers crossed* one of them works out . . xoox, e

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  8. Poor Daisy…poor YOU! It hurts to see your dog-girl so sad. I second the idea of a slightly older dog…not quite puppy but not an elder either (but elders still need to be adopted). Are you using the Lotus Wei flower essences? Maybe a bit of Joy Juice elixir in her water will help?

    I'll keep my fingers crossed that your plans for her work out.

    Love and gratitude ~~T.

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    1. Joy Juice was a GREAT idea-- and I actually have some so will add that in to the mix though now she is doing better with Ollie here . . ox

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  9. navigating grief is a tricky business.. for both us humans and pets. but you're on the right path... she'll always miss him.. just keep reminding her there is still joy..lots of joy, by taking her on those beautiful walks; and play dates... love will get her and you through...

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    1. thank you thank you thank you--- we seem to have turned a corner-- and some big healing for all three of us with Oliver back in the fold . . ox

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  10. i think animals honor their love by honoring their grief.

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thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me-- I love that you stopped by and hope something I shared was what you needed today. xo, e